conversations with teenagers. oh the places you’ll go.

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this past weekend surely should win an award for most interesting conversations with my girls. i’m throwing no one under the bus, so the names will be withheld to protect the ” ohmygosh i can’t believe you put that on your blog mom. everyone will know that’s me” comments from rising up.

buckle up friends & allow me to fire a few your way.

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which one of us do you think will get married first?

what’s ya’lls stance on inter-racial dating?

i can’t wait to have a baby. oh don’t worry. i’ll have a guy first. i mean i’ll get married first.

did i tell you so & so texted me and asked me to send him a picture of me in a bikini? yeah. so i sent him one from when i was a toddler.

did you sleep with dad before ya’ll were married?

mom clearly you’re way off on how big my boobs actually are because you keep buying me bras that are entirely too small. i mean really.

how long should you be engaged?

why do guys wear speedos? and are most guys proud or embarrassed to wear a speedo?

mom. tell me again about your tattoo.

sissy, maybe you’ll have big boobs one day.

mom. surely you know what the lyrics to that song are about. the song you’re singing. right mom?

i wonder who my bridesmaids will be.

mom. it’s not cool to dance to another car’s music while we’re sitting at a red light.

i think i want to backpack through europe when i graduate.

didn’t (_____)’s butt look so good in his fitted jcrew trousers?

aaaaand you wonder why i haven’t had time to blog.

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parents of little ones. rest up & prepare to bring your Agame….in like the blink of an eye.  because one day-like tomorrow practically- you’ll be driving along on a beautiful breezy summer afternoon ( minding your own business) enjoying zac brown & the child that you birthed, surely only yesterday, will ask you about your premarital sex life and you too will choke on your diet coke. prepare now my friends and stay strong. parents of teens, never ever let them see you sweat those questions…or choke on your diet coke. be smooth. i have faith in you.

this is my absolute favorite parenting stage. no for real. i remember the days when they all wore matching smocked dresses with monogrammed hairbows & red leather mary janes. everybody was lights-out by 8pm, tucked snugly in their beds after reading through madeline or playing with polly pockets and yes, i miss those days. i miss them terribly. but i lovelovelove this age. i love watching them become young adults. i love watching them make their own decisions and becoming strong in their own convictions. i only know what i know and yes i realize i haven’t dealt with any big bad rough & tough situations…..my girls aren’t walking on water & changing foreign policy either though. we’re just doing the best we can while days wizz by and trying to parent four very different young women and prepare to send them out…much before my heart will be ready. that’s for certain. & in the mean time, ill keep answering their questions.

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June 2, 2014 - 10:15 pm

Robyn - Love it … I have grandchildren asking these kind of questions now. By the way … in Australia we call speedos ‘budgie smugglers’…. I know!

June 2, 2014 - 10:40 pm

Maryb - Loved this post!!! Good luck to you with all those girls/women!!! I have two teenage girls who ask those same questions and then some! Some days I cry my eyes out at how difficult it is to parent young women in this crazy world we live in and then other days my heart fills that they are so comfortable and secure that they can talk to me about these things! I cant even begin to imagine asking my Mom those questions!! Good luck on your journey!!!

June 2, 2014 - 11:10 pm

Bess - Paige, I am a mother to 4 girls as well – the oldest is 13. I really needed to hear this because I was just thinking the other day about this change happening….we are entering this whole new world. You’ve given me hope! 🙂 Your family is gorgeous!

June 3, 2014 - 3:27 am

Lou - Oh Paige – this is so apt – I can’t tell you how familiar this all suddenly feels to me! We seemed to shift from the Mary-Jane stage to the let-talk-about-sex stage in the blink of an eye and it’s taken me six months to catch up. Not easy but now that I have, things are smoother because crucially, I have accepted that my daughters needs truth and guidance but with the absence of judgement and scolding. Of course that’s not always possible but that is what teenagers need – to ask the questions and get an answer that is real and not feel ashamed that they asked in the first place. So actually I think it’s great you got all these questions as it shows trust and openness! Great post. Lou x

June 3, 2014 - 5:03 am

patty - what a completely perfect post… love their questions, and some are familiar and some i remember asking myself. giggled to myself over the lyrics to the song you’re singing, cause yup! been there! and the pictures… so full of love and joy.

it’s a good life.

xo

June 3, 2014 - 8:03 am

Lindsey - This warms my heart. Teenagers are the best. A million thank yous for the way you love your daughters. I may not be a mom, but working with teens and parents gives me a glimpse into the fine balance of being parent and friend. It seems like you’ve got it down. It’s not by accident that your daughters love the Lord and you!

June 3, 2014 - 8:24 am

simone - Love love LOVE this post….I started reading it, then had to turn my music right off so that I could REALLY focus, I knew you had something here that I needed to hear!!

So glad I read this today.

I have not been having an easy time with my 13 year old….and am feeling that this is most definitely not my favourite part of parenting, this age is hard without a doubt. BUT in tiny subtle ways we are moving forward….and I think of you often, often to inspire me I have to say.

I LOVE the comments from your girls that you shared above….and have to tell you that I particularly laughed out loud at dancing to the music in the car NEXT TO YOU….SO what I would do, and my children would probably hide LOL!!!

Great post Paige….as always written with honesty & a healthy dose of realism & warmth….well done you Xx

June 3, 2014 - 9:20 am

Linsey @ Bravehearted Beauty - I love teenagers, too. Always have. Toddlers were really, really hard for me…like little rebellious teens with no ability to reason with you. Maybe matching smocked and monogrammed dresses would’ve made those days look better. Ha! I love the way you love your girls. Xo

June 3, 2014 - 9:36 am

Brandi - I only have 2 daughters and sometimes they are more than I can handle! I always tell my friends who have younger children, and complain about all their “why” questions, to enjoy those times. It’s the “have you ever” questions that can really get you worked up! Thanks for sharing this post. Now I know that the conversations with my girls, with all their questions and comments are actually pretty normal!

June 3, 2014 - 10:24 am

jodi - Oh, my gosh, girl….I love this! I am at the same stage with Beka (16). Sometimes the questions and comments she comes up with….well, like you said…don’t let them see you sweat! LOL. I too, miss the polly pocket days, but I too love this stage of her life (sometimes not so much), but I do love it. Beka will be a senior this fall and she is our one and only; I’m scared to death what my life will be like without her; her and I have become great friends.

Take care, my dear!
Jodi

June 3, 2014 - 10:40 am

judy - funny! one summer i hired a friend’s teenage daughter to keep my 2 at home and apparently they watched a lot of soap operas (she was not a good babysitter and got fired soon)..so one day i came home and my son (who will be 40 next month!!!!) asked me what was sex? before I could pick my mouth up off the floor he said…nevermind, i know, it’s when people drink wine and kiss! when i asked him where he got that idea, that’s when he told about watching all those soaps!

June 3, 2014 - 10:59 am

Jennie Marie McMasters - This just made my day, put a huge smile on my face and brought a tear to my eye all at the same time. Time does fly and I’m even in the midst of ages 2, 4, and 6 with three girls!!! Love what you share and your precious family and amazing pictures. Thank you!!!

June 3, 2014 - 3:16 pm

Kathy - I love this. As the mother of 3 boys…actually, young men, I love how different the genders are. I have been told if I knew what I was singing, I would not approve! Alrighty then! And my boys would not wear a speedo. No way. However, my nephew swims competitively and is required to. He catches grief from my sons, all in good fun. My niece and sister share these conversations and I love how real you are.

June 3, 2014 - 4:53 pm

Jackie - I wholeheartedly agree. I love this stage where we are in raising our kids–very similar to yours. There’s a glimpse of the relationship that’s coming, of adult-to-adult, that will be so wonderful, too. I even find myself thinking about grandkids, though I know that’s a ways away. Life is good, isn’t it?

June 3, 2014 - 6:14 pm

Alecia - Oh my gosh…I’m laughing so hard…my best friend has four girls & she follows your blog as well…I can’t WAIT for her to read this…she’s about to start the process of having “the talk” with her 10 year old…it’s killing her! 🙂 Life around your house is certainly interesting!

June 3, 2014 - 6:45 pm

Mickey - I love reading your posts about your family. Girls are so much fun, I have 2 adult girls both married, 2 wonderful grandsons and 2 special son-in-laws. Enjoy your girls now but they are also so much fun when adults, the shopping trips, eating out, texting, visiting, I know you don’t want to wish away the teenage years but for sure some continued great times are ahead. Also….I continue to get great compliments on my Noonday bracelets…I spread the word about Noonday jewelry all the time. Have a great evening…Mickey

June 3, 2014 - 11:23 pm

Melanie Taylor - Ha ha, thanks for these words, I have a 13 year old boy and feel the same! He can come out with some comments that make my head spin around, usually when we’re driving along in the car…what a fun age!

June 4, 2014 - 12:59 pm

Susan W - Well being an aunt of 4 under the ages of 16 and a godmother (to a new baby boy born last week) thank you so very much for not yet having these conversations but I can see it happening possibly maybe and hope and pray I don’t choke my tea as I am swallowing! Keep it real as you can Paige- your words are so much appreciated!!

June 4, 2014 - 8:24 pm

Angie - I love this! My tiny girl (just three years old) is in the stage of asking many, many questions.. sweet and innocent questions. Like, where do skunks live? What do they eat? Silly questions, that I have no idea why she would even ask about skunks.. Lol! But I look forward to the day that she can feel so comfortable with me, that she will ask the questions your girls asked you. You have a sweet bond.. one that reminds me of my mom, my sisters and myself. And I to this day know that I can ask my mom ANYTHING! I am new to your blog and am excited to follow along! 🙂

June 6, 2014 - 7:54 pm

Donna - Precious girls and family and I must tell you , you are so inspiring. God bless you and the work you do for him.

June 7, 2014 - 3:41 pm

Kelly - Love this and totally agree. They are so fun. (Also maddening, frustrating, funny, tender, compassionate, forgiving, and passionate!). I adore who they are becoming, far from perfect, but awesome.

June 8, 2014 - 10:10 am

tara - I love this stage, too!
I kept thinking while I was reading that you’re so blessed that they’ll ask you these questions.

Watching Luke grow and become who God made him to be is amazing. We definitely have days where we’re on each others’ nerves, but the majority of the time…we’re digging this stage of parenting him!

love your girls. SO FUN!

June 22, 2014 - 2:02 pm

Kerri - Hilarious! Ok, maybe I won’t be saying this when my 5 and 6 1/2 yard old are saying this in a few years! Do you think you can help me out when they start asking me the same questions? Thanks for sharing, it put a smile on my face my friend!