“we’re so much better together than either of us would be on our own”
the last couple weeks my heart has been feeling a little wonky. i was talking to myself on the way to the gym this morning , which now that there’s such a thing as bluetooth it makes talking to myself seem not so weird and if anything, somewhat unremarkable. even though don’t have a bluetooth ( which incidentally i often times accidentally refer to as blue fish. it’s genetic ya’ll. what can i say) i presume that anyone that looks over at me at a red light assumes that i have the bluetooth thingy in the opposite ear. makes my verbal processing self much more efficient as i attempt to figure myself out.
this is already clear as mud isn’t it?
so basically this morning my talk got stuck on the “i’m so disappointed in myself for feeling…well…disappointed. like shake it off already. gather what you know girl and get it going. make a change. pull up your boot straps and do what needs to be done. change your schedule. change your attitude. make things better. be the change. “….then it went to…..”am i spending my time wisely? does blogging really matter? it takes so much time and who reads it anyways? great bloggers write books and do amazing things. what have i done lately? i can’t even keep up with a monthly menu”. see! guilt & frustration and disappointment sure make for a slippery slope of yuck and lies. and i do not often talk & think like that! can we all join hands & say out loud–ain’t nobody got time for that!
i’ve read several soul bearing posts lately. and i’ve read several powerful, beautiful, joy filled posts lately as well. i love cheering on my friends ( & even my sorta friends, like people i know through social media but if we met in real life we’d so totally be real life friends) as they do what they do. friends that have bravely blazed new trails. made radical decisions in their families lives. intentional lifestyles that inspire me like crazy. marathon running, artists and entrepreneurs. i have friends that are seriously making a difference in their world. in the world. starting organizations, writing books/ebooks and traveling. speaking. raising children with love and mercy and grace that seems almost inconceivable. just arms-wide-open women living right where the lord put them. wildly in community. bravely behind a MAC. loving and living with boldness. wherever they are. just doing the next best, the next right thing. all sorta women. i love watching them do what they do well.
one of them is my real life friend melanie. i love this gorgeous, chips & salsa eatin’ texan. she’s the real deal. this should come as no surprise, but she’s even funnier in real life and yes, her hair is as incredible as you would imagine. and….she loves well. melanie is releasing her second–ATTA GIRL!!!–book tomorrow. i laughed and cried, those emotions experienced within about 4 minutes of each other, my way through sparkly green earrings and something tells me i’ll do the same with the antelope in the living room.
i mentioned reading some amazing posts recently. i encourage you to read this one. i wept after reading this. i texted her & said things that made no sense other than basically ” i think you’re awesome”…..she blew me away. this is a little excerpt from that post-
“Because here’s the thing, it’s easier to sit on your couch than to risk failing. It’s easier to sit on your couch than to be out in the world where you’re vulnerable and open to being hurt or disappointed. But you know what happens while you sit on your couch playing Candy Crush and watching Tami Taylor? Life. Beautiful, gorgeous, fragile, heartbreaking, mind-blowing, life. God has a script written for each and every one of us, no matter who we are or what we’ve done or how much we feel completely ill-equipped for the adventure.”
gosh i got all choked up again just copy & pasting it.
opening your heart in any format takes bravery. while sharing about the highs & lows can seem a little tricky maneuver at the dinner table on some days, opening your world up in book format, dare i say, is even more so! i love that she brings humor to the table & makes the every day and the ordinary day something to be cherished and celebrated. with her man of 16 years!
in her video, melanie said about perry, “we’re so much better together than either of us would be on our own”. this statement is true in so very many ways. we aren’t made to go through life alone. all lone ranger style. for some of us who like to keep the hurt and ugly all packed away because the sunhiney, happy & joyful days are so much more preferred, i’m thankful for this simple yet profound reminder to not isolate myself. a reminder that the lord placed people in our lives as a gift to be the hands and feet of his heart.and the reverse is just as important, just at true.
melanie, we are indeed so much better together. you’re so right pretty girl. i love you sweet friend . i love that you wanted to sit with me at allume and i love that you have a big antelope on the wall of your home and that we both have carolines. i have a whole new love for taxidermy because of you. so my friend, i’m cheering you on this week!!! i’m cheering you on big time!