my word

me 2014

i’ve been thinking about my word for 2014.

do you do that? chose a word?

i feel like it’s sorta like the north star. a word that will guide me when i get off track. when i get lost in somewhere between priorities of what really matters & the never ending to do list.

a word that i can use like a level making sure my motives are in alignment with my heart.

 

i thought about several words. i kinda wanted something cool. how weird is that? like create. or discover. seek. but each time i thought of one i realized that word just wasn’t quite it. wasn’t quite enough. i couldn’t find a word that would hold up it’s end of the bargain in being like an umbrella for my thought life, for my work, for how i spend my time. a tall order. i realize this.

as you might imagine, a home full of 5 women isn’t always full of kind words & gentle, turning away wrath, answers. while we’re not jerry springer worthy, there are emotions & feelings and temperments and birth order all as players on the field each day. on one particular day i was pretty frustrated with one of the girls and probably being selfish and immature in my dealings with her. later that day i was thinking about quiet time and how much time i spend with the lord each day. i was still trying to find my word, you know. i was thinking about work & goals. i was thinking about a situation where i don’t think i’ve been treated very professionally by a fellow professional who also happens to be a friend. i was giving myself a pep talk on how i might respond to her when this aforementioned situation arises again in a few weeks.

and then i realized. while i’m sure it’s cliche and could possibly sound all fluffy i realized exactly what my word for 2014 needed to be. i realized that in all things , my heart, my motivation, my responses and how i spend my time always falls under the umbrella of this word.

love.

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. who wants to be a loud annoying clanging cymbal. if how i respond to this above mentioned person in anything other than love, all she’s gonna hear is the sound of an annoying clanging cymbal.

if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. if i spend my time doing all that is right and i keep a list of rules in my head of a good christian but i don’t love people or i don’t respond out of love, i’m nothing. the lists of right & wrong doesn’t even matter.

 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. if with my house full of teenage females if i’m not patient with them. if i’m not kind in how i respond to them, then what good is anything i’ve done if it isn’t done out of love first.

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when i spend time with the lord it’s out of love not an obligation.

on nights when i’ve gone to bed and fears & thoughts of what if’s cloud my logic, i sing to myself the simple words, “jesus loves me. this i know”. this is what i know. that truth, that fact, THAT is what i know is true. not all the little seemingly larger than life, fearful thoughts.

when jesus was talking to the pharisees ( folks that lived for rules & laws) , in an effort to trip him up, a lawyer asked him which was the most important command of the law. and he says to them, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.”

so in their world of keeping up external appearances & 613 man made rules jesus goew & blows them away with challenging the state of their heart.

i can relate to that. are you kidding? in this world of social media & keeping up appearances, of course i can relate to that. i bet my children think by my actions that speak louder than my words, that i spend more time making sure my online presence is in better shape than the state of my heart.

yesterday morning i walked by em’s room & saw a few things on her floor. a small space heater ( it was off) her hairbrush & wand….and her jesus calling laying right beside her open bible. this morning i went to wake up caroline & noticed, inside her completely dark room, the illumination of her nook. i asked her if she fell asleep reading one of the latest books from the divergent series. ” no. i was just reading a devotional from my bible app. i couldn’t figure out which one to read so i just started one”.

last thing at night. first thing in the morning, loving on jesus.

so that’s it. this year my north star will be love. when making decisions, chosing how to respond to someone who i think has wronged me, in how i train up my children, in how i spend time, in how i relate to dan….love.

 

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But the greatest of these is love

{scritpures today from 1 corinthians 13, matthew 22. deuteronomy 6. images from katie daisy.}

 “… so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life. Hear, Israel, and be careful to obey so that it may go well with you and that you may increase greatly in a land flowing with milk and honey, just as the Lord, the God of your ancestors, promised you.

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

January 9, 2014 - 9:44 am

heather - i *love* it.
trying to figure out my word .. but i don’t think there is one that can top yours.

love to you.
you love well.

xo

January 9, 2014 - 10:24 am

Elizabeth - Love, love, love this Paige! You framed the concept of a word of the year beautifully – you described it as more than a word or a guide even, but a way of being. While I know this, your description brings it alive for me once again. Thanks for your honesty and transparency on this…can’t wait to hear more about your journeys on this adventure! And that pic – beauty-full! (btw- I’m a long time follower but not much of a commenter. I love following you and your family. So inspirational. So, hi from my corner of the world! :0) )

January 9, 2014 - 10:35 am

Rebecca - I love this… I do. And you.

January 9, 2014 - 10:36 am

D'Nese - If there was an option to hit the LOVE button on this entire post, I would hit it a million times over. Wow! Just Wow! I’m saving this one for a very, very long time. Love- it’s a word that we use every single day and yet, this post hit my heart like no other. Just everything you wrote, how you put it all into perspective. I hope the world around us learns to live by this one day. It’s such an ugly place, but as long as in our own hearts and homes we are fully sharing LOVE, then that’s what we must focus on. Wonderfully done, Paige and THANK YOU for this today.

January 9, 2014 - 10:37 am

Deidre - Perfect.Word.

I spent the better part of last year getting serious about grasping God’s love for me. I came to a place where I needed to simply KNOW He loves me regardless of what I do or don’t do. Now, I couldn’t be talked out of it. And, it changed everything about how I love my family.

Love this post!!

January 9, 2014 - 10:38 am

Ashley - This post was just… just fantastically true, amazing, and awe inspiring to anyone who reads through the beauty of your words. Jesus is love, and in order to be near to him and display his love to others, we ourselves need to fill ourselves up with love, his love and pour it out to all those we come across in our daily lives. I LOVE that your word is love and like stated above, there is no word that can top this word. LoVe-

thanks for sharing.

January 9, 2014 - 10:40 am

Rachel - Love you..such realness..that is why we love you and your writing and your precious face!! Thanks girl..it truly is all encompassed in one word..the most creative word ever right?

January 9, 2014 - 10:48 am

Donna - Thanks. I needed that.

January 9, 2014 - 12:04 pm

Dina - Thanks so much for your “word”. It may need to be my word too 🙂 I was up all night thinking of a few situations that my feelings have been hurt by peeps and all that I might say or do…… I am so glad I read this before I did any of them!!

January 9, 2014 - 12:05 pm

Susan - Perfect!!! The song that just kicked in play mode in my head is…”He loves us, oh how He loves us, oh how He loves us….You are such a loving person, this is truly the word for you! Mine is Jesus. It’s been on my heart for weeks. And, He is love. Thanks so much for sharing. Love your words…love you! Hope you have a great day my friend.
xoxo

January 9, 2014 - 12:37 pm

Natalie - Wow friend… I feel like we’ve already had that cup of coffee and long chat and that you know what’s on my heart and in my head… I totally agree with you and I think this is a perfect word for 2014. Deut 6:7… all the time… love. Thanks so much for sharing your heart and love with me!

January 9, 2014 - 1:09 pm

Alecia - Well said my friend…what a challenge! A few years ago a dear friend of mine started challenging me to find a word for the year on my birthday…it’s been fun to think & pray about all God wants to teach me in the new year. Some have been about me & how I need to improve and some have been about Him and what He wants to teach me about Himself. Thank you for sharing your word…I look forward to hearing more of how this year of Love plays out for you!

January 9, 2014 - 2:06 pm

emily - You are so wise and right. Love should be our word every year.

January 9, 2014 - 3:10 pm

Sandy - Such a great reminder to make sure our real image is as good as our social media face. Also love the idea to sing Jesus loves me in times of doubt. I think my word is bliss but I’m pondering it until my February birthday.

January 9, 2014 - 3:31 pm

Lori H - Great word and a reminder for us all 🙂

January 9, 2014 - 3:38 pm

Peggy - Ok… so have you been eavesdropping on my conversations? I mean seriously, WOW! Seriously, this has been on my heart for days, no weeks! and probably months if I was truly honest with myself. I’m not going to say anything else right now… 😉 (working on brevity as well, ha ha!) thank you, thank you for touching my heart once again. You know, girl, I am ever amazed at how God talks to me through others… (yeah I always wonder why i’m so amazed but i still am! isn’t God AWESOME!!!)

Love ya!

January 9, 2014 - 5:19 pm

Heidi @ Decor & More - It always amazes me how God illuminates things for us when we most need it. I chose “peace” for my word this year, and it’s only through Him that we find perfect peace. God Bless, Paige – I know you’ll be a living breathing testimony to love this year.
Xo Heidi

January 9, 2014 - 5:36 pm

Suzanne - It all comes down to love,
doesn’t it? When you lose
someone amazing, you don’t
think about how perfect they
looked or how many likes they
had on FB or how clean their
house was…..You simply remember
the love. You cherish the love.

Happy New Year, dear Paige.

xo Suzanne

January 9, 2014 - 7:02 pm

Kimberly - I am a long time reader but this is my first time commenting on a post. So why do I feel so nervous? I had goose bumps reading your post…loved it. Since the end of the year I have been thinking of what my word would be and finally settled on contentment. Luke 12:15. As much as I would love to live near the water, have you take our family pics, or have your wardrobe;), I don’t. If I am abiding in Christ I am perfectly content here, in the Midwest, with my (not as good as Paige takes) family pics and so-so wardrobe and golden retriever fur on my floor. I don’t know if any other fellow blog readers have suddenly felt the need, as I frequently do, to go out and buy that adorable something that someone has posted because we just have to own it too! I should buy stock in Target and TJMAXX 🙂 I love seeing perfectly styled homes and adorable outfits as much as the next gal but sometimes, it is refreshing to see REAL. That realness is one of the MANY reasons I love your blog…your puppy doesn’t hurt either! You have a beautiful home and family but most of all, you have a beautiful heart! Thank you for being an encouragement to this reluctant first time commenter! Wishing your family much love this year!

January 10, 2014 - 8:21 am

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January 10, 2014 - 10:13 am

Angela - This hit me right between the eyeballs this morning. I struggle with this very badly. I see things as “right” or “wrong”. If you fall into what I consider to be the “wrong” category, grace, love, mercy are very hard for me to show. Thank you for reminding me that “the greatest of these is LOVE”.

January 10, 2014 - 1:36 pm

Bobbi - Love your word for 2014! The chocolate cupcakes with salted caramel icing look so yummy! Would love to have the recipe! 🙂

January 10, 2014 - 4:48 pm

Norma - I came upon your blog today from Courtney’s blog. I got to her blog from Kelly’s Korner. I always sing Jesus Loves Me to myself when I feel anxious or upset about something or someone. It is so good to meet someone else that does the same. My heavy heart always feels so much lighter when I sing it.. Thanks for sharing that with your readers.

January 11, 2014 - 4:55 pm

tara - it begins and ends with love.
great word to invite into your life…it’ll show up and rock your world, I’m sure.

counting on my word to do that for me.