often times we look for, we long for, we need the acceptance “award” ( if you will) from others to define us. to affirm us. it’s so easy to fall into the trap of looking for the validation of our identity to come from those around us.
has there ever been a time in your life when that validation from others was more profound?
we aren’t a pageant family. i’m not a stage mom. the entire concept seems foreign to us. so when emi asked to compete in the Miss Parkview Pageant at her highschool i had my concerns. would we find the right gown? would it cost a small fortune? would emily be able to keep up with her academic responsibilities and all the things/meetings/obligations expected for the pageant? would she find a meaningful quote? would she present well at her interview? ….and the actual evening? i think the moms were more stressed than the girls……would her curl hold? would she remember her quote? would she trip on her gown? would she have fun?…..
in all honesty i didn’t put much if any thought into the ” would she win?” aspect…
until my emily walked out on stage.
i was completely blown away. my sweet girl was poised. she was confident. she nailed her quote. the quote that was connected to who she was. the quote that gave a glimpse into her heart. she didn’t trip or fall.
and she took my breath away.
i’ve never seen her more beautiful.
the night before at practice she seemed a little nervous. a little unsure of herself. but on saturday night she rose to the occasion and blew me away….and not just because i’m her mama 🙂
emily might not have brought home the crown that evening. what emily did do was have the courage to walk across a stage, to give a glimpse into who she is, to lay that out before others and truly be judged. i sure couldn’t do that now, much less at that tender age of 16.
i’m currently in a beth moore bible study at church called “believing god”. just this very week we talked about believing we are who we are in christ. while it certainly isn’t a beauty contest or a perfection contest our identity is in Him alone. not a crown. not a house in a gated community. not in a size 4 pair of true religion jeans. not in mothering perfect children making perfect grades. and certainly not in the validation of a panel of judges.
i’m not trying to spiritualize a simple sweet pageant at our local highschool nor am i trying to patronize my sweet girl. i know emi and her sweet friends will see this entry and for them i want them to be reminded who they are. where their validation and their identity is given.
sweet girls ephesians 1.3-8 says You are blessed with all the spiritual blessings. You are chosen. You are redeemed. You are completely forgiven. You are lavished in grace. He delights in You. You are adopted. You are accepted. You were fearfully and wonderfully made. You are loved.
and You did amazing saturday evening!!