i was recently chatting with a precious young mama friend of mine. we were discussing working from home, busy households, friendships and margin. you know, your basic, i’ve- had- a -cup -of -coffee so let’s figure out life together kinda calls. i love her. we don’t talk often. sometimes our calls are short & sweet and go something like..”hey girl, i just gotta tell you this funny”….or “i’m dreaming big. what do you think? ” or “am i crazy? can you answer that one quickly as i only have a second”.
she respects that while while she’s doing her thing creating amazing playrooms & chasing after youngens in winter park and i’m picking out car #5 to fill up our driveway in atlanta and discussing the tragedy that is miley cyrus with my teenagers we are indeed kindred spirits. our lives intersect with our mutual desire to make an impact, our love for monograms & godly friends, chickfila, and we both sure wanna invest in this generation of future world changers. she loves my girls. she speaks wisdom into my life and causes me to literally laugh out loud at her nutty antics. she’s a gift. she’s easy. she demands nothing from me ( well besides a guest post collaboration now & then) and yet expects so much from me at the same time. do you see the difference? she can see & call out gifts and potential yet hasn’t put me in a place of expectations that i can’t fulfill.
i asked her to pray for me. which is funny because she didn’t even say….”how can i pray for you today”. i told her that i continue to struggle with balance. we all do. and i realize, more than i care to admit, that there will soon enough come a day when my house will be quiet. no teenagers rolling in at 2am. no one asking for money for camp or a pageant. we will have bought everyone a car and put four ( lord willing) through college. my friends will call for lunch and my schedule will ( sadly) be wide open. i’ll have time to do my hair and won’t show up in a pony tail. my brows will be waxed and my roots covered. because i will actually have time. ( unless of course i’m blessed and my children rise up and call me blessed and “mimi” and plop themselves and my “oneday” grandbabies nearby).
i am fiercely and acutely aware that the lord has blessed me with passions that are truly “for such a time as this”. i pinch myself when i’m going through images of families and baby girls and newborns and think…i get to do this? i get to meet people and capture them just being them? with a fancy camera and a brand new fancy schmancy lens. i can wear cowboy boots to work and then sit here at this desk beside my doggy with norah jones and john mayer playing in the background? i get to travel to guatemala and meet women who are changing their communities? and then sell their goods in america? really? me?
i don’t know how long this gig will last but right now it has my mom agenda loaded. and i actually love it. i’m challenged and busy and overwhelmed and more at peace than i can remember. on the flip side, there aren’t really many days that i can “do lunch” with a friend or go for a walk. as i talked with my wise, much younger friends lately, ( thank you ashley & tara) they remind me that it’s okay. it really is.
don’t take this harshly if this is your current mantra. hear me out first. okie dokey? i think sometimes, well let’s even go with somedays, the simple “did i love God well? did i love my family well” maybe all i can muster. if even. and there is nothing wrong at all with those two big league goals…. but the goal and vision for my life right now is deeper and wider than that. i want to do more. i do. i wanna channel my passions and shout from the rooftops that people are beautiful, especially when backlit at sunset and that we really are making a difference…in loads of peoples lives. we are!! both of those things just take a serious amount of time and energy.
i guess what i’m trying to say is find those friends in your lives that could use a little encouragement. call out the gifts you see in them. encourage them that you have “expectations” from them…not on your life, but from them, on their own. especially those friends whose life looks different from yours. am i making sense?
i looked up synonyms for expectations in the thesaurus. check it out.
wouldn’t you love a friend who speaks that into your little world? can you imagine how much our children would flourish if they heard these words?
here’s a few antonyms since ya’ll are still playing along in my Language Arts class today.
anyways. i think you see where i’m heading. let’s dream big together. let’s use our platform ( whatever your platform is–it doesn’t have to be a blog) to be a city on a hill. let’s see the possibility and the likelihood of the whatever-it-may-be in those we are blessed to do life with!
okay. the end. i love ya’ll and i want you to know that each comment, email, or whatever truly is special to me! even the mean ones have brought forth life & growth. seriously.