expectations and possibilities

i was recently chatting with a precious young mama friend of mine. we were discussing working from home, busy households, friendships and margin. you know, your basic, i’ve- had- a -cup -of -coffee so let’s figure out life together kinda calls. i love her. we don’t talk often. sometimes our calls are short & sweet and go something like..”hey girl, i just gotta tell you this funny”….or “i’m dreaming big. what do you think? ” or “am i crazy? can you answer that one quickly as i only have a second”.

she respects that while while she’s doing her thing creating amazing playrooms & chasing after youngens in winter park  and i’m picking out car #5 to fill up our driveway in atlanta and discussing the tragedy that is miley cyrus with my teenagers we are indeed kindred spirits. our lives intersect with our mutual desire to make an impact, our love for monograms & godly friends, chickfila,  and we both sure wanna  invest in this generation of future world changers. she loves my girls. she speaks wisdom into my life and causes me to literally laugh out loud at her nutty antics. she’s a gift. she’s easy. she demands nothing from me ( well besides a guest post collaboration now & then)  and yet expects so much from me at the same time. do you see the difference? she can see & call out gifts and potential yet hasn’t put me in a place of expectations that i can’t fulfill.

i asked her to pray for me. which is funny because she didn’t even say….”how can i pray for you today”.  i told her that i continue to struggle with balance. we all do. and i realize, more than i care to admit, that there will soon enough come a day when my house will be quiet. no teenagers rolling in at 2am. no one asking for money for camp or a pageant. we will have bought everyone a car and put four ( lord willing) through college. my friends will call for lunch and my schedule will ( sadly) be wide open. i’ll have time to do my hair and won’t show up in a pony tail. my brows will be waxed and my roots covered. because i will actually have time. ( unless of course i’m blessed and my children rise up and call me blessed and “mimi” and plop themselves and my “oneday” grandbabies nearby).

i am fiercely and acutely aware that the lord has blessed me with passions that are truly “for such a time as this”. i pinch myself when i’m going through images of families and baby girls and newborns and think…i get to do this? i get to meet people and capture them just being them? with a fancy camera and a brand new fancy schmancy lens. i can wear cowboy boots to work  and then sit here at this desk beside my doggy with norah jones and john mayer playing in the background? i get to travel to guatemala and meet women who are changing their communities? and then sell their goods in america? really? me?

i don’t know how long this gig will last but right now it has my mom agenda loaded. and i actually love it. i’m challenged and busy and overwhelmed and more at peace than i can remember. on the flip side, there aren’t really many days that i can “do lunch”  with a friend or go for a walk. as i talked with my wise, much younger friends lately, ( thank you ashley & tara)  they remind me that it’s okay. it really is.

don’t take this harshly if this is your current mantra. hear me out first. okie dokey?  i think sometimes, well let’s even go with somedays, the simple “did i love God well? did i love my family well” maybe all i can muster. if even. and there is nothing wrong at all with those two big league goals…. but the goal and vision for my life right now is deeper and wider than that. i want to do more.  i do. i wanna channel my passions and shout from the rooftops that people are beautiful, especially when backlit at sunset and that we really are making a difference…in loads of peoples lives. we are!!  both of those things just take a serious amount of time and energy.

i guess what i’m trying to say is find those friends in your lives that could use a little encouragement. call out the gifts you see in them. encourage them that you have “expectations” from them…not on your life, but from them, on their own. especially those friends whose life looks different from yours.  am i making sense?

i looked up synonyms for expectations in the thesaurus. check it out.

confidence

forecast

hope

likelihood

possibility

assurance

expectancy

looking forward.

wouldn’t you love a friend who speaks that into your little world? can you imagine how much our children would flourish if they heard these words?

here’s a few antonyms since ya’ll are still playing along in my Language Arts class today.

distrust

doubt

hopelessness

unlikelihood.

yuck. right?

anyways. i think you see where i’m heading. let’s dream big together. let’s use our platform ( whatever your platform is–it doesn’t have to be a blog) to be a city on a hill. let’s see the possibility and the likelihood of the whatever-it-may-be in those we are blessed to do life with!

 

okay. the end. i love ya’ll and i want you to know that each comment, email, or whatever truly is special to me! even the mean ones have brought forth life & growth. seriously.

 

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September 18, 2013 - 12:19 pm

Jill - Oh Paige –

I am so in the same place as you and am blessed to have those encouragers in my life – I need them like I need air to breath! And yes, I too have been feeling off balance – getting use to our new ‘normal’ with a high schooler and middle schooler and my taking off home-based business where I too spend lots of days with my two furry friends at my feet and Pandora French Cafe Radio playing while and work and try to imagine how at beginning at 3:00 I will handle the evening activities! I got my first brow wax in 3 months on Monday! And girl, my roots won’t be touched up until October 4th….not that I am counting down the days or anything. And while I often find myself panic stricken at the thought of my big girl heading to college in 4 short years – I am trying my best to just enjoy, enjoy, enjoy the small moment and the big ones that these precious years and days bring!
Thanks for you beautifully written words this morning.
xo~Jill

September 18, 2013 - 12:46 pm

amy jupin - i adore this post.
bookmarking and saving to reread later.
thanks for sharing your heart this morning!

September 18, 2013 - 12:57 pm

Erin c - Ecclesiastes 3:1….thanks for sharing your season with us….we love you!

September 18, 2013 - 1:08 pm

tara - thankful for you, friend.
learning from your life more than you know….

grateful that God crossed our paths!

September 18, 2013 - 1:32 pm

Melissa - Love those photos of your family! And your words of wisdom

September 18, 2013 - 1:40 pm

katie - Love getting to learn from your wisdom. Thank you for sharing. Your family is so precious! Thankful for you!

September 18, 2013 - 1:44 pm

laurie overholtzer - Such a wonderful and timely post! Thank you. The photos are amazing, and your family is just lovely!

September 18, 2013 - 2:11 pm

Stacey - I too will be reading this over and over. Here’s an antonym to add to your list: worry. I’m afraid my worrying comes across as doubt to my sons. In fact, I know it does. I have full confidence in them at 21 and 24 but sure wish things would fall into place soon. Boys just seem to take a little longer, you know. 🙂

Thank you for your wisdom!

September 18, 2013 - 2:21 pm

simone - I absolutely reading this Paige, very thought provoking….thank you Xx

PS LOVE love love these photos….Madison’s dress especially, she has the most wonderful style 🙂

September 18, 2013 - 2:29 pm

Carol Spinski - Dear Paige,

Such a beautiful post! BTW-That Lens is AMAZING and like “Butter”-creamy and lovely!!!
A bit of a learning curve but well worth it!
((Hugs)) Carol

September 18, 2013 - 2:44 pm

D'Nese - LOVE everything out it! Great post!

September 18, 2013 - 5:18 pm

Jan - I’m curious as to where the photos were taken. It looks like the house of a family I know (The Lees), which is modeled after the house at Eden in FL.

September 18, 2013 - 8:22 pm

Mickey - Enjoyed reading your post today, you have a wonderful way with words. I received my Noonday bracelet in the mail and love love love it. I am going to see the show Lion King in Pittsburgh next week and plan to wear it. Have a nice evening! Mickey

September 18, 2013 - 9:39 pm

courtney defeo - paige – i don’t know how to respond. just so shocked and overwhelmed by your words. you are such a blessing to me. i feel the same about you. we make quite a match my friend! thanks for not forwarding me to voice mail.

September 18, 2013 - 10:34 pm

Kim from 3 peanuts - You have no idea how much I needed this post. Had a really bad balancing act few days ( even missed a client appt by mistake!!!!) luckily, I did have a good shoulder to cry on yesterday. She is a friend who gets it too. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, your gifts and your struggles!!!! Love you!

September 19, 2013 - 1:41 pm

Sara - I have been reading your blog for awhile now-found you through Edie’s blog I think 🙂 Love seeing the pictures of your beautiful family on here ( and on instagram!) i am raising 4 little ones right now, 3 boys and and sweet girl 🙂 I just had to comment on this post because it is AWESOME!! I think so many people need to hear this, especially as women! Its is so sad to me how “normal” it is for women to tear each other down. We need to make it normal to build each other up, exactly what your post says- we need to encourage each other to be what the Lord is calling us to be- in every season of our lives. We all have value and enormous potential and its so nice to hear every once in awhile that we are doing a good job! Thank you for this post- I am taking up the challenge and calling a couple girlfriends I know that could use some encouragement- Thank you for this! Sara Williams 🙂

September 19, 2013 - 6:49 pm

Joy G - Beautiful post, beautiful photos. Eden State Gardens-I was there in June taking photos of dear friends. Absolutely beautiful place.

September 20, 2013 - 6:52 pm

Lemonade Makin' Mama - Okay did you read my mind? Or my post? Or my comment on Tara’s post? Seriously. I think I need to go back and re-read. Or just say YES LORD, I get it. I am listening. I hear YOU.

And that lens. I would drool if I was a drooler.

September 26, 2013 - 11:45 am

Jill - Yay Paige! wrote the words in my momagenda and sharing with my girls! Thanks friend for always putting such thoughtful post down!

October 4, 2013 - 11:23 am

Joleen - Just catching up on your posts. This one is wonderful! There are days when I have whined to myself about needing an encourager, but am always convicted about how much I need to be giving out what I’d like to receive. Even though I’m smack in the middle of raising a pile of littles, there is always that someone else who surely needs even the smallest bit of blessing I can give. And how wonderful it is that true deep friendships have no age barriers!