the girls and i headed up to savannah’s mother/daughter weekend at her sorority house. unfortunately madison had to work that day but a super fun time was had by all!- gotta love a photobooth!
several weeks ago i had agreed to read & review Holley Gerth’s latest release, “You’re Going to Be Okay”. i’ve read a few of her previous books and i loved her session at Allume on creating your brand. she’s a gifted writer, life coach & just all around someone you’d wanna be friends with in real life.
being a little bit of a procrastinator, it actually worked to my benefit to put off reading this book until sorta the last minute. when i picked it up last week & realized it’s all about encouragement when you’re in a tough place, i gave myself a mental fist pump because this book was exactly what i needed to read!
have you heard this quote before?
“A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.”
that’s how i feel about holley’s book. she reminded me of truth i already knew, but the truths just got lost for a little while. i don’t want to want to steal any thunder, but i’d love to share some of my favorite passages.
” when & where does god want to use me? the answer is always, right here & right now”. i sometimes wish i was doing something dynamic. being used in a big way. whatever that means. as if somehow i’ve labeled where i am now as not enough. right here & right now is where & how He wants to use me. the take away for me- don’t miss the sweet spot of my now while wishing for the possibility of the something else.
“use what little i have to make much of You”. i often times feel like david & goliath in the world of photography. it’s a competitive field. i’m self taught. there’s many many many more who know more technical things than i, have better equipment than i, do better than i. but my prayer before each session is that i can bring Him glory by capturing moments of the person right in front of me at that moment…and make them feel special.
holley quotes lisa jo baker and adds a little as well. i love this. ” the illusion that there’s an inner circle we’ve been left out of; the lie that we’ve been left out on purpose. we’re built for friendship,yes. we have community in our bones. and when we’re desperate and blinded by the taunting mirace of the inner circle we will drink the sand- angry, gritty, bitter and confused. we can fight to find a way in or we can love on the women where we’re at. we can obsess over who didn’t talk to us or we can focus on the woman we’re talking to. we can keep looking for a seat at the more popular table or we can pass the bread basket and an introduction to the woman sitting right where we’re already are”. yeah. amen.
“when i talk to women who are experiencing depression or anxiety, they almost all have one factor in common. guilt.” i read a tweet this weekend someone quoted rebekah lyons at the IF gathering. who said, the root of anxiety is unfulfilled responsibility. goodness ya’ll. i have thought about that the last few weeks. guilt and what to do with it. i sure doesn’t need to be hanging out in our spirit. guilt does not need to take up residence in our heart. there’s conviction which is the avenue to head down for change while guilt is a slippery slope to the depths of all kinds of ugly.
conviction brings healing, guilt more pain. conviction is all about love, guilt the law. conviction brings us back to who we are in christ, guilt condemns us.
holley’s chapter on ‘you were made for the promised land’ was probably my favorite. she dispels a handful of myths, not the least of which is happiness is selfish. “happiness will not make you selfish. it will most likely do just the opposite- allow you to serve even more out of an overflow”. happy people serving out of an overflow. that’s what i’d like to be when i grow up. wink.
another point she touches on that i love, is that joy is a gift and must be received. its not something we earn. it’s a gift. i loved it when she said, ” dare to find the joy where you are now. dare to drop your expectations. dare to believe that only one thing in your life can be perfect- and that is the One who gave it to you!” bam!
thank you holley! thank you. my heart had forgotten some of the words…and you sung them back to me.
(you can follow holley here. her latest release is through Revell )