she called last fall & asked if i could come photograph their family, including their sweet new pup. i would have moved a mountain to make sure that happened, but our schedules were super easy to line up. on a beautiful crisp late fall afternoon i made the drive to one of my favorite spots to gather families. i remember reflecting on the incomparable impact regina made on my life.
our families became friends in the 70’s. i was just a little girl but i remember her & her hubby bill, aka willy, hanging out & visiting with my folks. it’s funny because the specific memory i have of them was one afternoon after they played tennis- always active & always young at heart-visiting our home & hanging out sitting by the fireplace, looks exactly like the image of them that fall day last year, just a brief 40 years later.
she worked with my dad. she prayed with my mom. i babysat her boys & she helped me get my life back on track with jesus when i was 18. she hosted my bridesmaid luncheon when i married gregg & she came to the hospital when i delivered my first baby girl on valentines day, 1993. gregg died 3 years later…and she was diagnosed with cancer.
i remember being really mad the day i found out she too would battle that beast. i remember wondering if all she taught me about prayer and god’s faithfulness was really true. how could it be? suffering? cancer? death? surgery? widowhood?
that was 20 years ago. & sunday my lifelong friend, regina, met the savior she loved with all her heart.
& yes. oh He is faithful indeed.
faithful in the suffering
faithful in the remission
faithful in cancer
faithful in health
faithful in the face of death
faithful in the living
oh He was faithful
& this time i’m not mad or angry. oh i miss my friend. her “twinkle in his eye” hubby bill will begin to live without his bride by his side. heartbroken she’s not a text away anymore, but i’m not angry.
you see, second only to my mom, regina taught me immeasurably much about loving jesus. if she were here today she’d tell me in her calm voice, paige don’t be mad…it’s all for His glory. and i know that i know that i know that the rejoicing was great for her homecoming into the arms of jesus. i know she heard, well done regina, well done.
regina is known by so very many as “mentor.” these words are hers, written within her blog titus 2 /mentoring women.
Thinking about this, I realized that when all is said and done, our lives are reduced to two dates and one little dash. When we leave this world, our life will be represented by a “-“. The “-” represents our legacy. We have no control over either dates, but we do have control over how we use our time, talents, resources, and all the wisdom gained while we’re here on earth.
Psalm 90:12 says, “So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.”
Let’s live well during the dash, and fulfill what God has called us to do. Let’s not “dash through life” hurriedly spending precious time chasing things that will not really matter in the end.
There are countless younger women needing an older woman to encourage them to live the life God has called them to live. Will you come alongside some of these younger women and encourage them, spur them on, and equip them to be all He’s called them to be?
I pray we will all live this life in such a way that when we see our Heavenly Father, He will say, “Well done, good and faithful daughter! You were faithful with a few things, I will put you in charge of many things; enter into the joy of your master.” (Matthew 25:21)
i receive her blog posts via email. the day after she met jesus, in what was obviously a previously scheduled post, her words showed up in my email, still teaching me 40+ years later….
It’s not about what you know!
It is about Who you know and what the Lord has taught you in your years of walking with Him in the different seasons of life.
As you make yourself available to younger women, you’ll find God using you in ways unimaginable!
“But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumph in Christ, and manifests through us the sweet aroma of the knowledge of Him in every place. For we are a fragrance of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing; to the one an aroma from death to death, to the other an aroma from life to life.” 2 Corinthians 2:14-16
May you be the fragrance of Christ to the next generation!
oh my sweet friend regina.i surely miss you. i still have the card you gifted me after gregg passed. it talks about how we don’t understand all the tangled mess we see…which in actuality is just the back of the tapestry God is weaving in our lives. we see the knots & the tangled threads, seemingly unconnected & surely a mess. the cancers, the surgeries, the recurrence, the tears…and the suffering but one day, in His time, He’ll turn that tapestry over. we’ll see the glorious work He created in our lives. we’ll see how all those knots & tangled threads were used in the glory of what was once unseen.
you taught me to trust in His faithfulness…
so i will. no matter what may come.
& one day, i know i’ll see you again.
until then….i love you.